Relational Transactional Analysis (TA) Principles
Relational TA is interested in those processes and methodologies that appreciate, contextualise, and seek to understand and engage with the language and power of the non conscious and the unconscious, as well as that of the conscious world.
Relational TA holds a number of principles to be self-evident:
The centrality of relationship - Thinkers as diverse as Sigmund Freud and Carl Rogers placed relationship at the very heart of what it is to be human; suggested that a person's learned patterns of relating are at the root of his/her psychological problems; and proposed that paying attention to these patterns as they emerge between client and practitioner is likely to change them - both within that relationship and outside of it.
The importance of experience - The most profound change happens through experience (as distinct from cognitive insight) and, most powerfully, through relational experiences that both embody and enact different meanings from those that relationships once did for the client. It is in this way that relational approaches are reparative.
The significance of subjectivity and of self-subjectivity - In different ways we emphasise relationship, in all its forms:
With the self (subjective or intrapsychic), that is, how I think and feel about myself
With the other (introjected objects), that is, how I think and feel about the other; and
With the intersubjective or inter-active (interactions, enactments and interpersonal behaviour), that is, what happens when we get together. This is particularly significant as we recognise that providing different relational experiences from those that are expected and/or longed for by the client can be extremely exacting - for both parties. As a result, the practitioner, as well as the client, is called upon to get to know, to extend or expand, and to challenge and change her/himself in new ways. This is crucial in that the practitioner uses the pull and push of his/her own subjective experience (or countertransference) with the client to inform when and what intervention or way-of-being-with will best enhance the client's knowledge of self, other, and the world.
The importance of engagement - This principle and concept centers on our thinking that the practitioner is - and needs to be - an active participant in the work, and is not and cannot be a neutral observer on him/herself, the other or his/her work. This locates relational TA and relational work in Stark's (2000) terms, as a 'two-person psychology' rather than a 'one-person' approach. The client is not there to be done to, nor is the practitioner a benign provider of what was once missing for the client. Both parties are actively involved in the process of finding new and more authentic ways of relating with each other. Benjamin (1995, p. 3) suggests that relational perspectives may best be characterised as 'an enquiry into the questions of common concern that come to the fore as a result of the adoption of a two person model.'
The significance of non conscious and unconscious patterns, as well as conscious ones - As practitioners we place different and differing emphasis on these three realms of relational patterns that shape all our experiences of ourselves and of our selves with others. We agree with DeYoung (2003, p. xvii) view that the 'unconscious isn't a place or thing; it is a self-perpetuating patterning or organising of self-in-relationship that remains out of the person's awareness but shapes all of his self- experience.'
The importance of uncertainty - In the search for meaning we think that certainty is neither possible nor necessarily desirable. When we recognise that the meanings we have or will arrive at have been shaped, co-created, and filtered through our individual social and cultural contexts, and when we shift from an individual perspective to a multiple and social perspective, we add richness, complexity, and uncertainty that enhances this endeavour. In line with this, 'both/and' thinking is valued over 'either/or' thinking, as is the tension of holding what Benjamin (2002) refers to as 'complementary oppositions'.
The reality of the functioning and changing adult - In relational TA the client is seen as and is treated very much as an adult who is capable of a reciprocal, and mutual (albeit asymmetrical) relationship with the practitioner. This frame of reference challenges the familiar parental paradigm and maternal metaphor in which the practitioner acts as a temporary replacement for unsatisfactory parents, there to meet the client's unmet relational needs. Instead, we emphasise the 'activity of relatedness' and a 'love of truth (Cornell & Bonds-White, 2001) where both parties are willing to acknowledge reality about themselves, which develops as a result of increasingly empathic and co-creative relating.
The importance of curiosity, criticism, and creativity - We emphasis a freedom to learn and a freedom to practice. Essential to this is curiosity, critical reflection, and creativity. As Cornell and Bonds-White (2001/2005, p. 150) put it: We further suggest that it is the therapist's and client's mutual curiosity and exploration of an individual's experience that is ultimately curative rather than the alleviation of the psychic pain that developed because of these [negative childhood] experiences.
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) Guiding Principles
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy is a gentle, mindful, body-oriented complete treatment modality to heal trauma and attachment issues. SP welcomes the body as an integral source of information for processing past experiences relating to upsetting or traumatic events and developmental wounds. SP incorporates the physical and sensorial experience, as well as thoughts and emotions, as part of the person’s complete experience of both the trauma itself and the process of healing.
SP seeks to restore a person’s ability to process information without being triggered by past experience. SP is informed by research in physiology, neuroscience, psychology, and sociology.
Organicity - this refers to the internal wisdom of all living systems. Thus, the therapist does not “heal” the client; rather the healing power and intelligence is within and each person has their our own unique, mysterious and emergent growth path.
Unity - we exist within a complex organic system of interdependent parts. Unity acknowledges that we are all connected, and that we have individual and group differences. Although unity is ever-present, it is recognized and experienced more fully through communication.
Mind/Body/Spirit Holism - Mind, body and spirit are intimately related, essential aspects of each of us. We keep the whole person in mind, and consider mind body and spirit in context and relationship, rather than work with these elements in isolation.
Non-violence - Our work is not forceful. We believe that people do not need to be “fixed” or changed. We avoid criticizing, judging, or pathologizing, and we encourage curiosity, and follow the natural organicity to promote change.
Mindfulness/Presence - We encourage awareness of present moment internal experience–both ours and our clients’–as well as the impact we have on others, and others on us, We strive to be in deep resonance with our clients, cultivating a state of presence that is conducive to intuition and inspiration.
Relational Alchemy - We recognize that each relationship has a unique nature that spawns something bigger than its parts. We honor deep, authentic connection as well as interpersonal challenges that are avenues of personal growth, accepting the imperfection of the human condition.
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“Like a filing cabinet, the past is a resource of information for learning, but it is not a place to live.“ - Anonymous
“It is a joy to be hidden, and disaster not to be found.” - D.W. Winnicott
“There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in” - Leonard Cohen
“Your trauma might or might not have started with you, but it could end with you” - unknown
“I am not defined by my scars, but by the incredible ability to heal.” - Lemn Sissay
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” - Rumi
“And suddenly you realize that silence Has the face of the things you've lost” - translation from “La voce del Silenzio”, Paolo Limiti and Mogol
“I go out looking for You and find You coming towards me.” - Yehudah Halevi
“It was a while before we came to realize that our place was the very house of difference rather the security of any one particular difference.” - Audre Lorde
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